“When you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.” ~Eckhart Tolle Remember that game of telephone that you used to play when you were little?? I am sad to report that it still exists as an adult. There are still those people out there that won't come right to the source to get the truth. Why? They love trauma and drama and gossip. I have come to realize that I am surrounded by this every day whether I want to be or not. I can only do so much to remove myself from this modus operands but even when I try, it still comes right to my door. It's just an every day fact of life. With this in mind, I set out to do some research and see how I could exist on a daily basis and not get caught up in the fray.
There are several wonderful tools you can use when confronted by drama. I was recently confronted with drama when my child decided to tell a non-truth to a classmate of his. It spiraled out of control and eventually, two weeks later came to my door (thankfully) through a friend who was willing to step up and ask me if it was even true (it wasn't). Thank God she did. It has since come out that this untruth went around the neighborhood and through the woods. See, an instance where the game of telephone came up. I wish folks had just come straight to me and asked instead of taking for granted that this untruth was well, true.
It's my new MO to uplift situations. For instance, when someone starts talking about our negative-filled presidential race, I can do one of two things, 1) ignore and change the subject or 2) walk away. There is a third option, that is to make some humor out of it. I'll give you an example, I made a comment the other day about how hot the Prime Minister of Canada is and guess what, it completely changed the tide of the negative conversation that was starting to take place. Mission accomplished!
Let's be real, drama will forever be a part of one's life. It's the reaction to the drama that will determine how it will be handled and what your reaction will be.
I recently came across a blog post on Tiny Buddha - http://tinybuddha.com/blog/7-crucial-steps-to-minimize-drama-in-your-life/. An amazing article that puts it all into perspective. Here are the top five points that this article goes on to explain. I highly recommend reading it in detail though.
- Recognize when you might be creating drama. If there are multiple areas of drama in your life - be honest, you're the constant.
- Change your perspective.
- Don't feed into other's drama.
- Reconsider unhealthy relationships.
- Be clear and straight with people.
Five basic but powerful steps to use when you are wanting to move away from drama.
I wish you luck in creating a drama-less atmosphere. It's amazing how you're perspective will change and how it will change you.
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