I had an amazing break-through just this very morning. It had been building up for a few days and finally materialized in one big, juicy collective breathe after breakfast. It was the ever so simple, "Stay In Your Own Lane". Now I know that I have brought this up on this blog before, but it showed up again this morning. It reminded me to get back to a simple routine that needed to be done over and over again. This healing process is a life-long experience. Some people think it can be fixed with one phone call or one pill, but I am living proof that it is always evolving. By staying in my own lane, I take all the energy I would have ordinarily used to try and "help, fix or rescue" others and turn it back towards myself. Some of you will know what I am talking about. I had a long conversation this morning with a friend of mine. She is on a similar path albeit a few levels back. I've been giving her some tips to use on her own journey. She takes what she needs or wants to use at that particular time. Today she asked me to remind her about the simple steps again. She keeps stepping into other's "stuff" over and over again. She is realizing quicker and quicker how it sucks all her energy out and the other person usually doesn't appreciate or need to hear what she has to say. Needless to say, when I reminded her, it took me to a moment where I needed to hear those exact words this morning. When we jump in to save the day, are we really saving the day? In fact, what I ended our conversation with was "By trying to help people, are we more "not helping" them?" She got what I meant, and I hope you do too. Folks need to figure out their own journeys. They may think they need help but when it comes right down to it, the answer is right there in front of them, they just want you to give them the answer and not search for it themselves. When that Aha moment hit me this morning, the rest of my day was completely different. When I had more energy to work on my own things, the day went a lot smoother.
There are just some of us humans who want to love on folks. We want to fix, teach, rescue, etc. It's our nature. It takes a lot of work to get out of this pattern. Sometimes the person you are "rescuing" tries to put even bigger hooks into you, but hold strong and remember at the end of the day, it's your health and well-being that are the most important. As you hear on that airplane, "Put Your Oxygen Mask on First". If you don't keep yourself whole, how can you help others??
When you say yes to others, make sure you're not saying no to yourself!!!
Until My Next Adventure,
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