I used to be the first one out the door when someone had a party. However, today I realized that hat didn't fit anymore. My family left me home alone (woo hoo, did they hear the door slam on the way out?) tonight as they went to a gathering at a friend/old neighbor's house. I made the conscious choice not to go. I thought about it all day and then realized that the reason I was getting into a bad mood was because I had too much on my plate today and most days. It is time to slim down my calendar and take better care of myself. I could have made the choice to go, but this week for some reason, I have been feeling an overwhelming energetic pull on me. I have been steering away from conversations that pull me down such as politics, world and American events. People look at me like I have three heads when I choose not to partake in these discussions. My reason is, if I am not willing to step up and do something big about these topics, it's best to put my energies into something that will move myself forward.
Don't get me wrong. I love the folks that would have been at this particular party, I just don't love the mood I am in right now. It's best for me to stay home, continue on the path I am on, and use my time for my creative efforts. If I were to have said yes to tonight, I would have ended up being in a far worse mood because I didn't stop to rest and do self-care when I knew that my body really needed it. It's time to say yes, just to myself for today. You know what? That's perfectly okay!
I used to be that person that thought you had to say yes to everything. Believe you me, I was a pro. If I didn't go, so and so would be upset with me. If I didn't participate, they may never ask me again. I finally realized that this was pretty egotistical of me because you know what, they are all right with this. They don't pay that much attention to whether or not I come to a party or not. What I mean is, they are not keeping score because I still get invitations. I also think that on some level, there are probably ten other people who upon hearing that I stayed home, secretly wished they were doing exactly what I was doing. That's okay. A Saturday night spent in your jammies reading a book, writing a blog or watching a show is awesome.
It's so, so important these days to do self-care. If we run ourselves ragged, what good are we to others?? Not very much. So use this as a hall pass on your next invitation that starts at 5:30 and you realize at 5:20 that you didn't even have the energy yet to get up and take a shower! That was my hint that it was okay to stay home!
Until My Next Adventure,
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