It’s been way too long blog readers. I took some time off of writing any posts so that I could focus on my business, my next book and some personal issues that were hitting pretty close to home. I woke up today and realized that my healing journey can not be complete without getting creative and writing. I’m happy to report that I am back online.
Today is a day of big shifts and realizations. I have made some changes that really hit home such as changing the way I operate with some people. I am seeing that some folks don’t want to change. They want to stay stuck in their depression, worries, anxiety, unfulfiling jobs or relationships, etc. Whatever their stories are around keeping the pain is quite honestly their business but they are getting something out of it. It’s up to me to change my attitude towards them and not let myself get sucked into their woes. If they don’t want to change, then why am I wasting my energy? I guess it’s what I was calling compassion or what I thought was compassion. If I sit and listen yet again to their “story” is that compassion? Or as I realized today, it’s actually enabling them.
Co-dependence and enabling seem to be the buzz words right now. You can be doing these things without even realizing it. Case in point, me this morning when talking yet again to someone who thinks they don’t need treatment for something going on in their life. Where do I draw the line? I did this morning. It was, okay if you don’t think you need treatment, then I will set some boundaries around how much time I spend around that person. I struggle with that they are feeling down and maybe don’t have energy to get treatment but I have to make sure I am not going too deep into their journey as it is unhealthy for me. I wish them luck on this path.
I am seeing more and more clearly that each and every one of us is responsible for our own journeys. There are lots of resources out there that can guide us on this course but ultimately it is up to us individually. I am currently working with a coach who doesn’t give me the answers but does give me the tools to get those answers myself. This is a welcome change from other folks I have worked with. This is empowering and helps me to be my best self. It also helps me to bring my A game to my clients to help them step into their best selves. We teach what we need to Master. If I didn’t put out there that I went through life “stuff” then how can I be relatable to my clients? We are not perfect. We all go through big “stuff” and it’s how we handle it that makes the difference between thriving in life and just surviving.
As the holidays approach, life’s big waves start to happen. If we decide to go into this season with calmness, un-attachment and love, then we are better able to enjoy life’s pleasures. Take back your power and use all that extra energy to have gratitude for all that this season does bring.
“Every positive change in your life begins with a clear, unequivocal decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something!”