What Are You Waiting For?

What are you waiting for?  Seriously?  The perfect website, the perfect time, for the Universe?  Waiting makes you feel safe. I get it. I do it all the time. I’ll eat like crap today because I’m going to start my diet on Monday.  I won’t move forward in my business until I have more training.  We do this to feel safe. It keeps us safe if we don’t just jump in today. Let’s work on getting out of that habit, shall we?

            Waiting to do something means for the time being we don’t need to do it. If I don’t pack boxes today, then that means I’m not really moving at the end of this week. This was my son’s motto this weekend. I had to be the reality check and tell him that with or without his boxes, we have to move this weekend.  If he doesn’t pack his stuff, it may just end up being moved into storage or worse, being thrown out. That motivated him a lot.  It shouldn’t have to be so drastic though.  It should be a comfortable pace. However, sometimes we need to be jolted into doing something. Maybe you get a medical diagnosis that could have been alleviated with proper nutrition so now you have to start from scratch with fear and worry.  Maybe you lose a job that you’ve wanted to leave a long time ago and now you are stuck with no future plans when you could have been planning all along.

            I see it all the time with some clients.  They work with me then move onto to someone else to take another training. I’ve learned not to take it personally. It means that they are just not ready to step into who they are supposed to be. I get it. I’m a serial learner myself. As long as I sign up for yet another course, then I don’t have to be fully in what I am here to do. It keeps me small and safe.

            I am not going to wait anymore. Today I am making the decision to step forward and not hide behind yet another course or junk food or…….  Do not get me wrong. Furthering your education is pivotal to staying alive.  Just don’t use it as an excuse to not continue moving forward.  At the start of each day, sit quietly and ask yourself “what are my next right action steps?”. I also think that folks take a lot of courses because they are hoping that they will garner “the answer” from them. Although it might assist you, “the answer” is deep within you already.  Stop and listen! 

            Life moves forward whether we notice it or not.  A Facebook memory popped up from 6 years ago today with a picture of my son. He was so little and now this morning, he stomps off to the bus for 9thgrade.  It goes by so fast.  I know this is a cliché but believe it. It really does go by fast.  Do you want to be “jolted” into something or do you want to have the pleasure of planning out and taking action one day at time so that it leads you to your dreams?  Being jolted into your future may be what you need but let’s figure out what you can do that’s a lot more gentler.

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

P.S. If you would like to schedule a free 30-minute session on how to get to your next right steps, click on my scheduling page today.  You’re worth it.

 

 

A Whole New World

            As I type this, there have been two mass shootings in the last few days. It’s gotten to the point that I don’t react anymore and that’s what worries me. The numbness. The expectation that there might be others because some copy cat is sitting in their house just waiting for the right time.  So, so sad that we have come to this in our country.

            The feelings I am processing are ones of sadness.  The hate and vitrol on the internet are at epic proportions. How does this serve our fellow man? Why do people feel the need to write such hateful things?  Is it fear? Is it simply a “what are we supposed to be doing about all of this to make it stop?”  Is it frustration at the lack of changes in our system?  I believe that the answer would be D) All of the above. So instead of showing compassion and love, these folks dish out more hate.  This isn’t helping the situation people.

             I took to Facebook just the other day to write that I was going to sit out social media for a day to honor the victims instead of glorifying the hate. The sad part is, I got less likes for this post than I did for a minion meme.  People are literally walking around like chickens without a head because they lack direction.  They just do not know what to do.

            I’m here to help get you started on steps you can take to diminish the fear, the hate and the plain mean posts.  Only follow folks who are uplifting.  One of my favorites is Jay Shetty.  He’s got great videos that really speak to life.  Another person I like to follow is Mel Robbins. Unfollow Uncle Frank who is a gun-toting cranky old white man and follow someone who uplifts instead of having the large need to be right. I’m not saying that Uncle Frank isn’t right, I’m just saying that his way of conversing probably isn’t going to have the word love in it.

             How I am handling all of this is to keep my side of the street clean.  I’m clearing my energy and making sure that the energy I am putting out into the world is one of service.  What can I do to pay-it-forward?  One of the most positive pictures I’ve seen this weekend is the long line of people in El Paso lining up to donate blood.  There were no lines drawn between white, black, American or non-American. It was simply a line of people with the same exact blood in their veins as the guy next to them.  How beautiful was that? Community is what will pull us through.

            When I went out for a hike yesterday to clear my head, I noticed that people were more responsive than usual. I got a lot more good mornings and hellos than I ever have.  People weren’t looking at their phones (yes, this is a common scene on the hiking trails. Come on folks, you are in nature.).  I even saw the wonderful sight of a Dad holdng the hand of his perhaps 15 month old and talking to him in full on conversation about nature. I stopped and thanked him for giving me that precious sight.

            I know it’s scary out there folks.  However, you can take actions to keep yourself clean and clear. Don’t live in anxiety.  This just means they win.  Live your best life.  Say what you need to say to those around you. Express your gratitude every day for even the smallest thing.  Eyes to read with, a laptop to type with, a pen and paper to express yourself.  Take time each and every day to just be grateful for the beauty that is still in the world.

Until My Next Adventure,\

Trish Walker

Park City, UT

Your Future is in Your Faith!

There are times in one’s life where you feel like you are at a stand-still. I was there for months. We had a long winter, I was getting myself settled after my divorce was final and I was just trying to keep my son and myself grounded and safe. It took a wee bit of energy to maintain the new normal so I stayed small. I stayed small so that I could survive instead of thrive. Silly me! I’m now seeing that if I had played full out, my life might be a bit different than where I’m finding myself currently.

I’m getting ready to once again pack moving boxes. I’ll be shifting things around a lot the next few months so that we can stay in our town and my son can stay in his familiar surroundings. This is the plan currently. The Universe may have different ones. It’s been a learning process. I’m learning to have faith that the right things will fall into my lap like a great living situation. I have faith but I’m also taking steps to make certain things are moving forward.

A lot of people have asked me if I’m nervous or worried about giving up my lease without a next step. The interesting thing is I’m actually exhilarated. I’m deciding to do things differently than ever before. Without changing myself, how can things change. I know, your first thought is but what about your son? I’m taking risks but also making sure he is safe in the process. We are both excited about our next steps!

I’m re-reading for the third time the Bad Ass books by Jenn Sincero. I’m really paying attention this time because my desire to do things differently is so huge. I knew that these books were my first right step. Jenn drops a lot of wisdom bombs. Last night’s chapter was all about how your future is in your faith. “Faith is the rocket that you ride into uncharted territory to get to your wildest dreams.”. Don’t you just love that? Jenn went on to say, “If you are serious about creating a new reality, you must do different things and think different thoughts.”. YESSSSS!

I’m so excited to be back on my blog. When I first blogged, my book was born and life changed in big, big ways. I’m ready to up level again and to have you, my readers, come along for the ride. Stay tuned as I will give updates on how doing life differently makes me feel, what gifts it brings and what lessons that I will learn.

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

It's Been a Long Time Without You My Friend!

It’s been way too long blog readers.  I took some time off of writing any posts so that I could focus on my business, my next book and some personal issues that were hitting pretty close to home.  I woke up today and realized that my healing journey can not be complete without getting creative and writing.  I’m happy to report that I am back online.

Today is a day of big shifts and realizations.  I have made some changes that really hit home such as changing the way I operate with some people.  I am seeing that some folks don’t want to change. They want to stay stuck in their depression, worries, anxiety, unfulfiling jobs or relationships, etc.  Whatever their stories are around keeping the pain is quite honestly their business but they are getting something out of it.  It’s up to me to change my attitude towards them and not let myself get sucked into their woes.  If they don’t want to change, then why am I wasting my energy? I guess it’s what I was calling compassion or what I thought was compassion.  If I sit and listen yet again to their “story” is that compassion?  Or as I realized today, it’s actually enabling them.

Co-dependence and enabling seem to be the buzz words right now.  You can be doing these things without even realizing it.  Case in point, me this morning when talking yet again to someone who thinks they don’t need treatment for something going on in their life.  Where do I draw the line?  I did this morning. It was, okay if you don’t think you need treatment, then I will set some boundaries around how much time I spend around that person.  I struggle with that they are feeling down and maybe don’t have energy to get treatment but I have to make sure I am not going too deep into their journey as it is unhealthy for me.  I wish them luck on this path.

I am seeing more and more clearly that each and every one of us is responsible for our own journeys. There are lots of resources out there that can guide us on this course but ultimately it is up to us individually.  I am currently working with a coach who doesn’t give me the answers but does give me the tools to get those answers myself.  This is a welcome change from other folks I have worked with.  This is empowering and helps me to be my best self.  It also helps me to bring my A game to my clients to help them step into their best selves.  We teach what we need to Master.  If I didn’t put out there that I went through life “stuff” then how can I be relatable to my clients?  We are not perfect.  We all go through big “stuff” and it’s how we handle it that makes the difference between thriving in life and just surviving.

As the holidays approach, life’s big waves start to happen.  If we decide to go into this season with calmness, un-attachment and love, then we are better able to enjoy life’s pleasures.  Take back your power and use all that extra energy to have gratitude for all that this season does bring. 

“Every positive change in your life begins with a clear, unequivocal decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something!”

 

 

 

 

It All Comes Down to This.......

Today seems to be a day of introspection.  I am slowing down enough to see that what I thought was my vision might not be my vision at all.  In fact, as I type this, a vision board is in the making next to me. I seemed to have some resistance around even making it this morning.  Hmmm, interesting.

There have been a few deaths around me lately, a friend’s Dad, a young man who was simply mountain biking on vacation, certainly lots in the news, etc.  It makes me stop and go, hmmmmm.  It all comes down to that – death.  If I knew I only had a few years left, how would I want to spend those?  This is where the vision questing comes in.  Am I on the right path?  Should I even look at life like that?  Do I need to be in the present more?

My life has drastically changed in the last year.  It’s even changed a lot in less than a year.  Big, big shifts.  Good, bad and in between.  Let me take the bad out of there because I no longer am using words like negative and bad as there is always something to learn from things. 

I was in a workshop the other day where the moderator had us do gratitudes for things that may not have been in our life plans: divorce, deaths, job loss – you get the picture.  There were a few eye rolls (not from me, as I could see where she was going with this), a few groans and a few looks like deer in the headlights.  What?  How can we have gratitude for loss?

Once everyone started to do the exercise, I could see the shift in the room.  Oh yeah, there are things to be grateful from that divorce.  I now know where my next path in life will come.  I am grateful for my child that came from said marriage.  I am grateful for the opportunity I had to live in various places across the globe because of my husband’s job.  I could go on but think you get the picture.  What a cool way to look at things, right?

As you can see, today is one of those days of deep thought, clearing my energy out and thinking about what I really want out of this one life I have.  It’s comforting to know that I can start each day fresh and go from there.  I can live in the present and start each day in thought about what my next right steps might be.

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

#BestDayEver

There is a magical place called Marco Island, in Southwest Florida, found just off the coast from Naples. The minute that one drives over the Causeway onto the island you feel all your troubles melt away.  The heat and humidity help that, but the beautiful blue and green waters, palm trees and various birds help to move you in the right direction.

I’ve been to Marco several times, but this time I finally parked myself down long enough to truly explore the island.  Although people thought me nuts to come in June (bugs, humidity and heat), I found a quiet place with few people.  By alternating my beach going until the early evening, I was able to stay out longer, snorkel and swim with the fish.

One of the days during my visit saw me on a boat trip with the Florida Adventure and Rentals (http://www.floridaadventuresandrentals.com) Company.  Our tour guide Marco was about to give us a day that we will never forget.  The we being my son and my niece who was making her maiden voyage to Florida.  Marco explained that we would be taking a two-hour tour and we were on our way.

The minute the boat took off out of the harbor, the water became crystal clear, the birds began to circle and the fun began with two manatees who were just as curious about us as we were about them. We stopped the boat and let nature take it’s course.  A giant manatee (Who knew how much they resembled potatoes?) came up to the boat, stuck his head out and wished us a good day.  He stayed for a bit and then decided we weren’t delicious enough looking and went about his day.  The manatees circled the boat a few more times and then it was time to leave. Our guide was very informative the whole day about each and every species that we encountered.  While telling us about the manatees, he shared that they are actually very amorous beings and that one would probably not want to swim with them. 

Our next stop on the tour was the remains of the Dome Houses on Cape Romano.  These Pac-Man looking structures were beyond wild.  The story is very detailed in this link:  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cape_Romano_Dome_House.  It’s very interesting and a definite read.  Basically it was a house that was once in one piece but was destroyed during a hurricane.  Beyond that I don't do the story justice, so again, please read the link.  It was so cool to be so up close to them.  They definitely gave off a kind of out of this world energy.

On to find some dolphins….  As we sped our way further south, we were greeted with various birds of all types – heron, egrets, pelicans and more…..  So much fun.  We saw nesting grounds, flying birds, etc.  The place was “littered” with them.  Our tour guide was not going to quit until he was able to get some dolphins “surfing” behind the boat.  What happened next was nothing short of a miracle!  The dolphins literally started to surf behind the boat wake.  They would circle, move in and then flip in the air.  It was one of the most joyous things I have ever seen in my life.  Alas, I would have loved to have shared a video of this with you but a technical glitch prevented that.  Trust me when I say it was one of the coolest things ever.  You will just have to take a tour with Florida Adventures to experience it for yourself.

When the day was done, I remarked to our tour guide that it quite literally had been one of the best days of my life.  I joked about #bestdayever!  Low and behold, the next morning, my niece pointed out that in the condo we were staying at, there was a pillow on the chair that said exactly that “BEST DAY EVER”.

All the elements of this special day still give me goose bumps when I think about it.  The combination of family, stellar tour guiding, great weather, dolphins, manatees and more made for a day that I will never, ever forget.  I remarked to my niece when we got back to shore that if there ever there was a day that was arranged by our angels and spirit guides, that this was truly one of those days.

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

www.trishwalker.us

marco island
manatee
Cape Romano

Yes, Life Can End on A Dime, But.....

They always say, live life like it’s your last day here on earth.  What does that even mean?  Does that mean, whoop it up and run up your charge cards?  Does that mean, tell the ones you love, that you love them.  Leave nothing unsaid or does it mean live like there is no tomorrow?

I happened upon a video yesterday of someone talking about how someone had died suddenly in their lives this week.  The loss seemed very profound and the person was rightfully sad.  He went on to say that if you are waiting to do something until the right moment, or waiting to take a trip until you have enough money, then stop and go do it.  I get it.  I truly believe in don't wait to do the things you want to do!

My question is, how do we balance the fact that we might live until we are 100 or we may die tomorrow?  How do we balance those in a way that would benefit both situations?  It gave me pause.  How would I want to operate under these situations?

As I began to think about it, I realized that you can have balance.  You can go about your life to satisfy both situations.  You can go on that trip but also save for retirement.  You can say you love your loved ones everyday, yet not see them all the time. You can study for that test for part of the day, yet go out and do something wild in the afternoon.  It’s all a matter of balance.

I am a firm believer in the energy of words.  What you put out there will come back to you.  So if you hang on the thread of it may end tomorrow, oops that might be what you draw to you.  However, if you concentrate on that balance of living each and every day to the fullest, yet plan for the future, I think that you will find that you have just that – a rich and full life.

I think my message in all of this is, feel that pain, feel those emotions but the best way that you can honor someone who has passed is to live your life in the fullest possible way.  Yes, we never know when our number might be up, but let’s not sit around and wait for them to call it.  Let’s slide into home after a winning homerun, or be able to leave with the knowledge that you have left a great legacy behind.

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

What Are You Getting Out of Being Distracted?

Wow, it’s been a long time since I have written a blog.  Ironically enough, today’s topic is about distractions and why we enjoy having them.  What??  That’s right, why we enjoy having them.  What do we get out of them?

As I’m sure you all have noticed, I’ve had a lot of distractions in the last few months.  It’s kept me from getting my word out and you know what, that started to not feel good after awhile.  When I sit on my creative self, I start to get cranky and mean.  What do I get out of not writing or being distracted from continuing on my true path?  I get peace (not world peace but the kind that comes from not having to push myself).  I get playing small and hiding in plain sight.  I get not having to really put myself out there.  Why would I even want something like that?  It’s called mental laziness.

I keep throwing distractions in my way and using them as excuses for not continuing on with things like my next book.  Even when people ask me how it’s coming, I can still say it’s half done.  Do you know how long I’ve been saying it’s half done?  A long time now.  Again, it started to not feel good.

How do I switch that?  How do I stop using distractions as a means to stay small.  First step, make a schedule.  Make a list of three things you will do in a day and make a schedule around them.  I’ve started putting together a weekly calendar and scheduling in time for writing my book, writing blogs and you know what?  Once I got back on the wagon, it started to feel easier than staying distracted.  It felt so good to get some content out on the table that I was able to keep moving forward.  

One of the other techniques for staying out of distractions is to do some mental imagery.  I imagine what it will look and feel like when my next book is done. I imagine what life will be like when I am up at the podium speaking about my process and journey.  Sit down and envision what it feels like to be your best self.  What are you wearing?  Where are you hanging out?  Who are you hanging out with?

So I ask you, the reader, what do you get out of distractions?  Is it an excuse to not delve into your true self?  Is it the way to not go big and step into your best self?  Is it just pure mental laziness? It could be D – all of the above.  Let’s start with small steps.  Do those three things a day.  For me, today, it was write this blog, see a client and re-arrange my website.  Once those are done, if I continue on, great.  If not, I can rest easily knowing that I made some strides to keep moving forward.  My bet though is that it is going to feel so good that I continue on down the list of what are my next right steps.

“You have a clean slate every day you wake up. You have a chance every single morning to make that change and be the person you want to be. You just have to decide to do it. Decide today’s the day. Say it: this is going to be my day.”  ― Brendon Burchard

 Until My Next Adventure,

Trish

 

 

 

Let’s Keep This Momentum Going Forward!

What an interesting time to be alive. This weekend in history is one of so many emotions, changes, the needs to be right, marches, inaugurations, love, hate, you name it. Last Friday marked the Inauguration of our 45thPresident. I’m exhausted, seriously. I have never seen a country so divided before. You are damned if you do and damned if you don’t.

Whether I voted for Trump or not, I still respect the office of President. He is now the president and we can all go into this with two schools of thought. Let’s trash him or do what we can in our own lane to make sure that we are running on our clearest and highest level. It’s with that in mind that I have decided to take a step back and just observe. I could get wrapped up in so much drama, but am operating on the level that if I do, it’s bringing me to a level that I do not want to operate on.

I live in Park City, UT. It was the home of one of the many Women’s Marches that took place on January 21st. I became aware of it a few weeks ago and had a hard time trying to figure out what it all stood for. Was it an anti-Trump rally or was it standing in solidarity for one thing or a lot of things? I realized after polling some folks that it was a mixture of all of the above. With that in mind, I realized that it would not be something that I could attend at this time. I’m doing a lot of work on my own energy and it is really opening me up and making me pretty sensitive to all kind of things in addition to the energy. I’m not saying that anything is right or wrong I’m just saying that I made the choice to stay at home and watch from the sidelines.

The day after the events, I started to really wonder something. It appeared that there were amazing turnouts in every city from Washington, D.C. to Los Angeles and all points in between. What I began wondering is, would this solidarity and good will continue on after March day? Would these same exact folks who put up pictures of Chelsea Handler and John Legend, step into their highest and best selves and keep moving this in the right direction? I certainly hope so. I hope that someone takes the time to go feed the homeless or make a donation to Planned Parenthood. To march and then to go home and not continue to make this country a better place would be an interesting way to operate.

Let’s face it, the gentleman who is now the President may have come into office with a whole different set of tools than the last guy. From my view point and thinking, I see this as a chance for Americans to stand up, make some much needed changes and if you need your voice to be heard, scream it. Instead of taking a victim mode and blaming a lot of things on others, take responsibility for yourself and your own piece of the puzzle. If we all take that time to go inside, make some necessary changes, as a collective we can do so much. Living in fear about what might happen in a non-existent future time point, is just a waste of time and energy. Instead, turn that thinking around and use it to become excited about what just might be the best years after a storm. After all, calmness after turbulence is usually so stunning that we often times look back and go what were we worried about? Why did I waste my time worrying about that? I hope that this comes true for this country. It won’t if too many people are coming together to rant, rave and throw blame on things that haven’t even come true yet. Let’s rock this next four years folks. Do your part to step into your best self and let’s see what we can all do together.

“The point in history at which we stand is full of promise and danger. The world will either move forward toward unity and widely shared prosperity – or it will move apart.” –  Franklin D. Roosevelt

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

When the Words Just Won't Come!

I'm currently working on my new website that will soon be launched.  In this process I've had to work on the wording and basically put on one page what my message to the world is and what I want to offer. Easier said than done.  As I woke up this morning, I reached out to the Universe for more clarity.  How do I boil down my message in just a few short sentences but with a big impact?  What will my elevator speech look like? I realized that if I stop long enough and let go of the worry of what to write, that perhaps it will just naturally come to me.  That's where I am turning to writing this blog for help. Let's get those words up and out so that I can have that clarity at the end to send to the web designer.  Let's see what I want my legacy to be.

The day started with messages coming through, friends that called and a child who refuses to get out of his pajamas.  The usual MO for that is that I worry about that.  Why isn't he wanting to come out of his room?  Is my kid just stinking lazy?  Today I decided to just let it go.  I'm going to go with the flow and see what he does with it and what I might do with it.  So far it's finding me in my office and him out in the kitchen screaming and yelling at his  Minecraft game.  Hmmm, how is this helping?  How it's helping is that I have let go of my agenda for the day and we both seem to be relaxing into what our vision of the day is.  I'm not putting my agenda on him and he has a smile on his face.  One day of Minecraft will not kill him.  Maybe the opposite will happen.  Perhaps he will see how tired and cranky he will get after a full day on the screens.

So in getting back to my task at hand, I'm realizing that perhaps I don't need that full clarity and final wording.  I may just have a work-in-progress here.  I want to go out and spread my message to folks that I have been through some big changes and shifts in the last year or so, and I survived.  I want to help folks who think they are too old, or that they can't take time away from their kids right now, or that self-care is selfish, etc. etc.  I want to let them know that the answer is inside them and not outside in a pill, book etc.  Those can sometimes help but the ultimate answer is inside of you.  If you aren't willing to do the work, then the changes you might aspire too just aren't going to come.  If you look to someone else to do that work for you, guess what?  It's going to be on their terms.  All it takes is a few small steps a day, but just keep moving.

I will provide my clients with the tools to find that answer for themselves.  I'll keep them on the path of momentum to keep heading towards their best selves.  I've had the immense gift of having folks in my life lately that are doing the same for me. I want to pay that forward.  We can spend a lot of time thinking up excuses for not doing the work. The bottom line goes back to the old saying, if you want to make changes, you have to change your way of thinking, being and doing.  Not sure if those are the exact words, but you get my drift.

I look forward to what this year brings for me. I also look forward to connecting with those folks who are ready to make that next step.  If you are ready to take your next step, please feel free to send an email to pwalker2650@gmail.com.

"It does not matter how slowly you go so long as you do not stop." - Confucious

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

 

 

Happy 2017 - Let's Rock This!

Happy 2017!!  This year is going to rock.  I started out the year with a bang.  I went into hibernation mode over the weekend and was able to thoroughly clean my house, set up some manifestations for this upcoming year, and do some self-care to start the New Year off in the right the direction.  I had a positive feeling about this year and I still do but....  I sit here at my desk after my son finally got back to school after long breaks and a bonus snow day.  I am sitting at my computer and wondering how to get started and what's the best thing to do to get my manifestations rolling. I was feeling very ungrounded and decided to reach out to a friend.  He told me to go back to my sequence.. Do some grounding, cut cords and take a salt bath.  Whenever you are feeling like the world is spinning out of control, it's awesome to know that you can have these simple tools to plug back into and feel safe, comforted and supported.

I was guided this past New Year to not go back and review my 2016.  It's giving energy to something that has past.  It's better to step into the exciting possibilities of what you can become in the 2017.  I love this.  It's a far more uplifting feeling than going back over things that happened.  Yes, I am grateful for all of the good shifts but why give energy to those things that may not have been so uplifting?  This is a whole new perspective and one that gives me much joy.  Even as I sit here and type this, I'm feeling like the energetic shift into the future has really begun.

As I prepare to become my best self, I'm preparing some things to have others join me for their next steps.  These will include coaching programs, Meet-ups, videos, re-branding and several other yummy ingredients.  I would love for you to join me on this journey.  If you are interested, please feel free to contact me @ pwalker2650.com.

"I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something." - Neil Gaiman

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

 

Where Are You Quitting on Yourself?

Tis the season to be jolly, well you know the rest.  It's been a busy one for sure.  In the midst of it all, I am doing my best to continue the momentum I have built up this year.  It's easy to use the excuse of the holidays to slow down for the last two weeks of the year.  In my honest opinion, this is the best time of year to actually speed up and set yourself up for a rocking 2017. With this theme in mind, I'm noticing a lot of people quitting on themselves.  I've been really guilty of this myself this past year, and am doing my best to put into practice things that make me step out of that and forge on. What do I mean by quitting on yourself? Where do you stop yourself?  Where are you suddenly in the flow and things are going great and boom, you throw something in your own path?  This something could be anything from self-doubt and fear to stopping what you are doing so that the flow also stops.

I gave an example the other day of when I really wanted to crawl back under my warm covers instead of getting to the computer and making some new prospects.  It was so hard, especially since I work out of my house. This became the theme of the day because it got me really noticing where others are doing this as well.  The proverbial stay under the covers so I don't have to put my gifts out into the world scenario.  I'm guilty of this in the past as well.

Listen, I know it's the easy thing to do.  When we are doing energetic, physical and emotional shifts, it feels foreign.  It can also feel fearful, painful, and any other "ful" that you can think of.  It's those of us that push through the can'ts, shouldn'ts, etc. that will realize the most gain.

You ask how I put things into place to stop myself from quitting on myself.  What is my practice?  Everyday I get up and sit quietly with 12 minutes ticking down on my clock.  I tune in to Source, get quiet and really listen to what my next steps will be.  I also ask myself if something I am about to do is what is best for my higher self.  I ask if it will take me to my next right place.  If the answer is no, you will most likely feel it in your body.

Back to the holidays, I get it, it's busy, exhausting and can be downright stressful. Here's the thing. If you are working on yourself and staying in your flow during this time of year, guess what, I bet the holiday season will be less stressful and can even be downright fun.  Once your body and soul are humming with your divine purpose, the rest of your world will magically fall into place.

“Don't give up before the miracle happens.” ― Fannie Flagg, I Still Dream About You

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

Please also follow me on my Facebook Page: Trish Walker or via Twitter (Trish Walker@50foraYear).

 

A Soul's Legacy of Love

In honor of the third anniversary of the passing of Paul Walker, I'm reposting this!! I woke up this morning to the news that Furious 7, the latest in the Fast and Furious movie franchise, had topped 1.15 billion in ticket sales.  It has had the #1 spot at the box office for three weeks running and it is now the seventh biggest earning movie of all time.  An amazing feat that some are calling the legacy of Paul Walker.

My first for today is that I am going to find my voice [something that has taken me a long time to do] and go up against some folks who are stating that Paul Walker's legacy is that he left this world by having a billion dollar movie.  I know it definitely is part of his legacy, but as I have stated in a previous blog post, the legacy goes beyond so much more than that.

Over the weekend I had an awesome girl's day with a soul sister of mine.  She excitedly asked me how my trip to LA went for the Furious 7 premier (reference Blog Post from 4/9).  Can I tell you how nice that was?  Someone made a point to ask me about one of the highlights of my year.  Heidi, a hug to you for putting that out there.  Again, I cannot tell you how much that meant to me.

I was asked to describe the feeling of being at the movie premier.  This lead me to writing this blog post.  The question brought me back to what I was feeling on that exact night.  While I was standing amongst so many people from so many walks of life, I realized that what Paul Walker's legacy exemplified was sitting right there in that theater on this warm April night.

On April 1st hundreds of people gathered to celebrate not only the release of his last film, but also to celebrate the person that Paul was.  I won't pretend to know him because I had never met him before his untimely death.  To be honest, before his passing, I had never seen any of his films or been familiar with him as an actor.  I am now getting a really good picture of what he truly must have been like upon meeting some folks who were in his "circle".

For that one night, I felt like all was right with the world.  All was right with the world because I felt such true and utter love.  I felt and saw what his family meant to him and what he meant to his family.  His family was not just biological but situational.  His friends and his fans all gathered together in one spot.  All the love poured out and for one night everyone focused their love on one thing - Paul.  How cool that so much energy was so big in one place.  I saw the effects of what everyone focusing love, instead of say hate or anger, had on a crowd and had on the world.

Getting back to that amazing billion dollar mark, here are my thoughts.  I think that for this small moment in time, people around the world are clamoring to get that same great feeling that I did that night in Hollywood.  I see folks leave the movie theater (having seen it again just this past weekend) with a look on their faces of pure and utter love.  Everyone is leaving the theater in a peaceful, yet emotional state.  Perhaps it is giving them all the impetus to reach out and share their love with someone else.  We never know when our time, or that of a loved one, will come to an end.

So, in closing, Paul, I think that your legacy reaches more than just the box office numbers.  I truly believe that your legacy is one of joining the world together no matter what their race, ethnic, financial, gender or any other group may be.  No matter where someone comes from, you have proven that we can all get along together as long as you throw in that component of love.

Until my next adventure,

P.A. Walker

P.S.  Not to diminish other parts of Paul's legacy, please check out his great work with his charity Reach Out Worldwide (www.roww.org).

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Back Away From the Distractions!

I've been guilty lately of letting distractions take hold of my every day life.  What I mean by this is, spending my time on things that do not take me towards my greatest good.  I have had several days last week filled with phone calls with friends and family members, lunch with others, going for an oil change in the middle of the day, etc.  This then escalated into me making judgements about others, thinking they weren't doing things the right way and so on and so on. Now don't get me wrong.  Having a long phone call with a friend is a wonderful thing to do.  It's when I do it several mornings out of the week with several different friends that it starts to really take away from my work. My soul's mission here on earth is to help folks and to get my word out there.  I can help folks while having coffee but at some point, I should think about giving them the tools to help themselves.

Once I realized where I was throwing distraction into my life, I decided to sit back and see where others were doing it and if I was guilty of doing the same thing.  Bingo!  I have a dear friend who is veering off track with her life goals.  She is spending a lot of time worrying about what others in her life are doing.  Yes, she is not staying in her own lane.  Where am I doing that, I thought?  I was definitely doing that.  It was as if I woke up this morning and the light went on.  It's time to ask myself the simple question as these distractions come up, "Is this in my higher good?". Is the sitting around worrying what others are doing for my highest good?  NO.....  Is letting others dump their stuff on me for my highest good?  NO....

I won't fully stay away from phone calls  with my friends.  They are dear to me.  I love that they are in my life.  I will take my calendar and make sure that I get my work done and the things that are moving me toward my greatest good done.  Once I do this, then I'm happy to sit down and see how the rest of the world is doing.  If I don't get my social time, I start to really miss people and places.

Where can you "clean" up your time?  Are you spending a lot of time thinking about how others can do it better?  Is there some way for you to turn that around and see where it's mirroring something in your life?  Are you giving away a lot of your time that could be used to work on your goals?  It might be time to start looking inward and see where you can make some changes!!

"Whatever you want to do, do with full passion and work really hard towards it. Don't look anywhere else. There will be a few distractions, but if you can be true to yourself, you will be successful for sure." - Virat Kohli

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

Please also follow me on my Facebook Page: Trish Walker or via Twitter (Trish Walker@50foraYear).

 

Ch-Ch-Changes!

I'm changing!  Yes, that's right, I'm changing and I am loving it.  Since my first book came out, all kinds of wonderful things are happening for me.  I've been doing press (radio, television, newspaper articles) and meeting some really great people.  It's as if my world has shifted so much in just even three months.  As I sit here typing this, I am reflecting on how my changing has had many different effects on other people in my world. Just yesterday I had a television interview air. As I sat there and watched myself, along with my son, I got giddy, nervous and finally, after a great segment, relieved.  The reporter managed to bring out some different aspects of me that I almost didn't recognize myself. It was really cool to see.  After the segment finished, I asked my son what he had thought.  He was featured (via pictures) in the presentation as well.  He goes, "It was a great segment, but I should have gotten more air time.".  Cue the sound of the needle screeching across the record.  Come again, dude?  This started a conversation about how this wasn't about him, but more about me.  I asked him what he was thinking about Mom stepping more and more into my soul blueprint. I could see that my changing is bothering him.  We talked about how no matter what is happening in my life, he is still my son and I am still his Mom, my most important job in life.

I've been excited to see the love and outpouring from folks wishing me well on my journey.  I've had people who I haven't heard from in years step in and congratulate me. I've had people I talk to every day not say a word.  As I sit here and ponder that, it makes me wonder why.  Why can't they acknowledge the things that I am doing?  Why can't I even get a "good job"?  It's then that I realize that I am looking for validation when in fact I should be validating myself.  It's getting back into that need to be loved and liked.  As long as I love and like myself, everything else is just icing on the cake.

Bottom line is, when you change out of your "old" self and into someone new, there are always going to be some folks who can't handle it for some reason.  It could be that they have dreams they have put on a shelf or feel that if you change they have to. I'm not asking anyone around me to change.  That's not my right.  What my right is is to step into my best self possible and to share my gifts with the world.  That is my mission right now. I've had incredible opportunities and blessings. I want to pay that forward!

“Sail beyond the horizon; fly higher than you ever thought possible; magnify your existence by helping others; be kind to people and animals of all shapes and sizes; be true to what you value most; shine your light on the world; and be the person you were born to be.”  - Blake Beattie

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

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The Elephant in The Room!

"But it's family, you haaaave too."  That's the message that we all can get when it comes to dealing with those folks who share a bloodline and nothing more.  It's family, you have to.  Well, I'm here to dispel that myth. Just because it's family, doesn't mean you have to do anything. You can choose to do it, but you don't have to.  After all, family are humans just like the rest of us. Family seemed to me to be the "safe haven". It seemed to be the place where I could go and get advice, love and support.  In my adult days, I see more and more that I get this love and support more from my friend tribe than I do from my family.  It's making me stop, take breathes and work through some grief issues.  I bought into that family story that they are there for you whatever and whenever.

Today I am clearing out some old patterns. I'm tuning into clear Source energy to move through and clear my energy.  It's taking some work for me, it's tiring me out but today is the first day where I have woken up and see that I can get through this.  I don't have to stick with my story.  I also have to let go of the belief that just because they are family, they will always be there for you.

Let me share with you a way to move through the energy.  You need to get out of your head. You have to start feeling your deeper self. You have to start tuning in and knowing our soul is one of our greatest guides. WE have to listen. One of the ways to listen.  Take a breathe in through the nose, see how deeply you can breathe.  Place your tongue on the roof of your mouth and exhale.  What comes up for you?  It's a very healing practice.  It won't get better with the first round, but know that this is something that you can come back to time and time again as a sort of anchor.

Getting back to the "You have to because it's family..." motto, know that you don't have to do anything.  It's time to step up and make my own path.  Focus my energy on my own support group and treasure them for the gifts that they are.  I love each and every one of them.

"Friends are family you get to choose!" - Unknown

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

Please also follow me on my Facebook Page: Trish Walker or via Twitter (Trish Walker@50foraYear).

From This Day Forward!

It was a big, big day.  It's Election Day 2016. Regardless of the outcome, it's been quite the journey.  The signs went up six months ago.  It's been a long six months of opinions, accusing, non-support etc. I tried to stay put today and not go out to much.  However, real life gets in the way.  As I made my way into a restaurant to pick up a sandwich, a young man came at me and said, "Well, who did you vote for?".  His co-worker told him that that was rude and to not ask me.  Thanks for coming to my rescue sir.  The person originally asking the question told me that he wasn't going to bother voting because it didn't matter anyway.  I told him that's one way to look at it but to please not complain because not voting doesn't give him that option.

It's been a day full of wonky energy.  People yelling at family members because they didn't vote for who this person thought they should vote for. People saying they won't judge, but then do judge.  Through it all I have sat back and observed.  I've observed some really bad behavior but also some beautiful behavior.

I've set my Facebook feeds up for high vibe folks for the most part.  Their posts today were beautiful.  One in particular by Michael Franti talked about love.  How we need love right now but more importably how love needs us right now.  It was a feel good watch.

By this time tomorrow, I will know who our new president will be.  As relieving as that sounds, I know that there will probably be six more months of whining, attacks and just plain stupidity.  It's up to me how I react.  It's up to me to make my space high vibe.  It's up to me to make the choice to not hang around folks who try and mudsling and bring into my world a bad energy.  Even if it includes family, it's okay to make the choice to not be a part of their every day.

P.S.  It's the day after and we all know who won.  I woke up to blazing headlines, fear (not mine), again hatred, etc.  A light went off in my head.  I can do this differently.  I can not get sucked into the rhetoric.  From this day forward, I am going to take on a light way of doing things.  I truly feel that this country needed a wake-up call.  It came in the form that it did, whether you think it is good or bad.  The fact that so many people didn't vote but are still complaining is a testament to what I am referring to.  I spoke to my son at great lengths this morning about how we can walk away from the drama.  We can decide that from this day forward, we will put our energies into the good.  When you put energy towards something, either negative or positive energy, it still gives that entity power.  In the case of either candidate, this current mood of the country was going to happen.  We can just trust from this day forward that the good will rise up and that people will start to pay attention to what we need to do to prepare for the next election so that we are not in this situation again.

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

Please also follow me on my Facebook Page: Trish Walker or via Twitter (Trish Walker@50foraYear).

 

My New Normal: Excitement for the Future!

I am working a new process here today.  My husband is moving out of the house.  It's been a few years coming and I woke up this morning and said, it's here. It's really here.  I am at a crossroads and can do one of two things:  I can sulk and live in fear or I can rock this.  I am going to take the other path and build myself up to my highest vibration. It's been a long run, a long cycle, but we are both going into this new phase with the understanding that we will still be in a relationship (hopefully happy and healthy) where we can co-parent our child. As I sit here at my desk, I realize that I am letting go of an old story and getting ready to build a new one.  It's exciting, it's scary, but most of all it's just that, a blank slate.  I get to put the words on there that I want. I get to decide my experiences, feel those feelings and make my own decisions.  It feels a wee bit overwhelming right now to me, so I am going to take a moment to focus on self-care and love for myself and our child.

I can't tell you how appreciative of my husband I am (I need to come up with a term for this new reality but am stumped at the moment).  He has given me my child, financial stability for years and just always has been there.  Why then, do you ask?  We also have been caught in a gerbil wheel of enabling each other to not be our best selves. It was when I finally became uncomfortable in my dysfunction that I discussed with him our need to go our separate ways.  For once, he agreed with me.

As I navigate my new normal, I am going to keep going back to my "roots".  My spiritual practices each morning, my work-outs, and my having fun.  It can get easy to get caught up in what others think you should do: drama, blaming, etc.  However, in this one, we are 50/50.  We both have verbalized that we wish no drama.  In fact, I'm not sure folks will even know what is going on because it has been that low key.  I love this.  I love this new way of thinking and not conforming to what society deems a separating couple's way to act.  How cool is this?

I'm looking forward to my new future.  It will have it's ups and downs, but the tools I am acquiring are giving me strength like I have never had before.  I spent a good part of today wallowing in a feeling that I don't think I have felt before. Was it sadness, grief, fear, or something else?  I'm just not sure.  I reached out to someone today and they said to keep moving.  Stay active and keep moving so those old thoughts and patterns keep moving out of my body.

Again, I look forward to my new future, new adventures and this life that I am now living! For each day, I am grateful.

"The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless your forgive the situation, unless you realize the situation is over, you cannot move forward."  - Steve Maraboli

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

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A Moment of Calm with Adam Levine

Adam Levine and his band Maroon 5 sure know how to rock out with a crowd.  I went to see them in concert Saturday night and was pleasantly surprised by the energy, talent, and fun that can be had at one of their shows.  It also gave me a big taste of how completely disconnected this world is becoming.  It left me with a feeling of sadness along with a side of hope (more on that later). As the warm-up band began to play, the two ladies sitting to my left immediately pulled out their phones.  Wait, let me re-word that because they didn't have to pull them out, they were glued to their hands.  Now these were no teenagers, these were middle-aged ladies such as myself.  This makes it even worse.  Anyhow, over the next two or so hours, these two ladies proceeded to take a selfie, post it on Facebook, keep checking Facebook to see who commented, video every song (will they ever watch these videos?), and finally, deep breathe in, start to play Candy Crush when they got bored.  Excuse me ma'am, but why did you come to the concert?

I started the evening getting very inflamed that this was going on.  Why didn't I say something?  Well, they were so many cocktails in, that I figured that it would be more work than I could imagine.  In the midst of all of this, I decided that I had a decision to make.  I could continue to let them ruin my night, or I could switch things around.  I chose the latter.  During the break between bands, I turned to the young couple behind me and we started to talk.  Yes, have a conversation.  This in turn, started to include a few more folks who saw what we were doing.  We talked about how there is no connections in the world.  These two young folks were high school teachers.  What they told me about kids and phones proceeded to break my heart.  Again, a choice. I have a son.  I can start by making a difference with both him and myself.

As the show continued on, it became very apparent that there was a lot of phone usage. At one point in the show, Adam Levine (bless his soul) actually said to the crowd that it was time to try something different during the next show.  He asked everyone to please put their phones away.  There were one or two folks who just couldn't part with it, but overall, the arena got really still, quiet and the only sound you heard was Adam and his guitarist belting out their song.  The energy shifted to one of folks being present, engaged and creative.  It was unbelievable.  Alas, after the song was over, Adam told folks they could go back to their old ways.  He did pause long enough to say, "Wasn't that really nice?".  I hope that a few folks really saw the connections and might make a difference in their lives.  Well, I'm sure you were wondering about Thing One and Two next to me.  Their phones came right back out!!  I wish them well on their journeys.

The concert was the highlight of my birthday weekend.  I knew every song, loved the music and had a great time.  The last song of the night that was played was Purple Rain by Prince.  It gave me chills and made me realize that our time here on Earth is short. We can spend it on our phones, creating drama in our lives, or we can hook into a collective of connection, love, friends and family.  The world right now is one of chaos, commotion and lack of connectiveness.  My hope is that something shifts soon. I can do my part, help my son to do his and send love and best wishes to everyone else.

“You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. I hope someday you'll join us. And the world will live as one.” ― John Lennon

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

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Be Your Own Hero!!

At a lovely dinner last night here in Park City, I had a conversation with a good friend of mine.  We were talking about finding your purpose in life and how it feels when you just don't know what that is.  We talked around the subject and then came to the realization that you know your purpose, it's inside of you just waiting to get out.  There are quite a few folks in the world who are already living their purpose, but I would have to guess that there are more who are not.  They are stuck in jobs they don't like, relationships that aren't working and are not saying yes to their souls. Fast forward an appetizer or two, and we came up with the lovely conclusion that you do have your purpose inside of you.  It's the unlocking of steps to get you to that a-ha moment, that lovely, yummy version of yourself.  The one where you no longer feel that emptiness inside and that voice inside your head that says, "I know there is more!"

So, the inevitable question becomes how do we get there?  How do we unlock those steps?  For me it was years of workshops, coaching, therapy, etc.  It's just what I had to do.  It can get frustrating but it's that one coach who will give you the tools to get the job done yourself who will be the most valuable.  We all go to the workshops and hope that "they" give us the answers.  How many of you can relate to this?  When you make that switch to "I can do this!", the answers will flow more easily.

As I continued to talk to my dear friend, we realized that you can work on finding your passion at night while still in your day job.  Just start!  Just start with small steps and it will keep the momentum building and the energy going forward.  It's when you stop and try and re-start a few months later that you have problems getting the energy up to full speed.  Try it, just do three things a day.  Sit down and write three things a day that you want to accomplish.  The feeling of completing those three things will have you feeling so good, you will continue with the rest of that long to-do list.  Baby steps, my dear, baby steps.

It took me 50 years to finally see what my purpose here on earth was.  Some folks are blessed to find it way early and some way later than me.  It's that acceptance of knowing that it is inside of you and that you eventually will have the tools to tease it out that will make your life so much richer!

“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there’s love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.” —Ella Fitzgerald

“I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing that I wanted to do.” — Georgia O’Keefe

Until My Next Adventure,

Trish Walker

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Are you ready to say yes to your soul by shifting your perspective to create something extraordinary? I invite you to contact me via email at pwalker2650@gmail.com to discuss how I can help you to make your next chapter better than your last.

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